That's just cruel.Subodh: I somehow knew that my parents would eventually get me to find a woman via these matrimonial apps. And although there's always a danger he'll find out the truth (which is why you should probably just tell it in the first place), definitely don't use that if it's a blatant lie he'll be able to confirm with friends the same day. Stick to things like "Sorry, but I have a boyfriend" (or "I just decided to be exclusive with someone else" if you've already gone out with him but don't want to keep doing so). So, don't say things like "I'm really busy this week" or "I'm not ready to date right now," because those can string the guy along to next week or that magical time when you are ready.
This means no excuses that make it seem like dating is still an option in the future. The guys I talked to made it clear that they favor the direct approach, even if it hurts, but if you really can't bring yourself to verbalize the cold, hard, I-just-don't-wanna truth, you can at least honor their wishes to not string them along. If you're going to make up an excuse, make it one with no holes. One not particularly thin-skinned guy said, "I've been on the receiving end of that, and it's fine."
Think, "You're a nice guy, but I'm just not into you in that way." It's clear and not wishy-washy, but it's not quite as blunt as actually stating that you find him unattractive. "I can't tell you how many guys I talked to in college who were hopelessly strung along because the girlĪ standard, slightly gentler line. It's hard to come right out and say it, and sure, it probably doesn't feel great to hear, but it's ultimately the best way. In fact, it was the most common response from the guys I informally surveyed. Not to bring up '80s anti-drug slogans into the conversation, but sometimes, the simplest answer is the easiest to stick to. If they have to be rejected-sorry guys!-what's the way they'd prefer it to happen? Here are three ways to do it: Just say no. But I've contemplated the dilemma of how to turn a guy down without being awkward or plain old cruel a few times myself, so I consulted some men in my circle of acquaintances for their take on the issue. A reader recently wrote to ask me if she should turn down a guy she thought was really great but wasn't physically attracted to, and if so, how should she do it without being too harsh? For the first part of her question, I'm including links to past discussions of the issue at the end of this post.
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